How can I help a hurt, angry teenage boy (father abandoned him)?

I know a young man who's in a difficult situation. His father left him and his mother when he was young. Now he's a teen and having serious difficulties. The teen years are hard enough as it is, but he feels especially hurt knowing other kids have caring fathers and he doesn't. I'm only 27 myself, so I wouldn't necessarily consider myself a 'father figure'. His mother begged me for help after he go into some fights at school. How can I help this kid?How can I help a hurt, angry teenage boy (father abandoned him)?
Well for one he needs a sounding board. He needs someone to voice his feelings to and you could be that someone. Something that I can say about your question is that you are young enough to remember the ups and downs of the teen years. He will need someone who can


walk him down the road he travels and help him up when he falls. Another thing I would do is get him involved in youth activities such as a church youth group, Boy Scouts, 4-H. This will put him in touch with other kids who maybe going through similar problems and who he can talk about his feelings. Talk to him about sex, drugs and things that could harm him. Take him to places of learning like museums, Animal Parks or Aquariums. As I said he needs a sounding board who will listen and not pass judgment. He can get through it if your willing. If I were near him I would but I am 47 and have a family but if I could help I would.How can I help a hurt, angry teenage boy (father abandoned him)?
I think the best thing to do in this situation ( what i would do) is to just be around him, maybe your not the ';father figure'; but being a good influence on him would most likely have a great impact on him. id say just hang out with the kid. doing anything would prolly help.
Just start spending time with him. Take him to a sports game or things like that. Also don't talk to him only as an adult to a kid. Make sure he can talk to you about ANYTHING, and only tell his mother what he says if it something that she needs to be concerned about.





In all honesty, he may need counseling.
try and let the kid know his dad did not leave him but left the mom it might not be easy but more often then not i think that is what happens.





at lest let him know that it is not his fault. let him see the good about himself.





Good luck it will not be easy but i think your up to it.
Just tell the kid, anything good thing about the kid that is truth. For example, he is strong, nothing thing will get him down. Offer to help anytime any place.
First of all if this child is using the excuse of not having a father as a reason for his outburst then he is doing just that ';MAKING AN EXCUSE'; usually people with the mental trauma don't really signify where their anger or issues stem from and most of all if they do find out and know for sure that is what is causing it then at that point it becomes and ';EXCUSE'; because if we know why something is wrong and we know why something makes us angry then we also at that point can know how to and correct the ill behaviour that we were demonstrating from that issue.





For instance if you know your brakes are squeeking then you change the pads. Well this kid needs to realize that he is old enough now to know that people don't always stay togehter forever and he will probably have a girlfriend and dump her one day or vice versa but things change. His father didn't leave him, he left his mother and if he did leave him with no final words or even any insight as to why he left the mother than sometimes children aren't privy to that information and in some instances it is probably best not to lie and make up some candy coated story so that in the future as an adult the child can resent you.





I say this boy needs to step it up a notch get over himself and quit being a bully and keep his hands to himself. And Mommy needs to quit blaming Daddy and grow some parenting skills.