What if your teenage daughter asked you this?

';Hey mom/dad, is it okay for James to take to the formal?';





Note: You don't talk to her about dating and you know she doesn't have a boyfriend.


You are the typical ';No dating until you are 18'; parent.





What would you say?What if your teenage daughter asked you this?
so i'm guessing you're the daughter?


well...my parents were like that, until they discovered last week that i have had boyfriends before, so i kinda know what you're going through. however, i'm sure they'll say it's okay. you're 16 and old enough and responsible enough to date. it's just one innocent little formal and i'm sure they'll see that it's just fine.What if your teenage daughter asked you this?
I believe it's rather old fashioned to not allow a girl to meet a guy until she is 18.. instead she should be just be made aware to act maturely about a relationship and be responsible and never practise unsafe sex... and if she has no BF and maybe James is just someone she know from school and there is nothing between them and she asks her parents if it is ok for her to have him accompany as an excort to a fomal occasion.. then I don't understand the problem.. otherwise as she has no BF and is not planning on having one before age 18.. as her parents forbid it and she accepts that.. then to ask for an innocent school pal to accomany her to a formal occasion simply so she won't be the only girl at this formal event who arrives without an escort then I believe the parents should meet James and talk to him and if he is a reliable guy and the daugher does only really want to go to this formal event with him.. and they don't even have a relationship any normal parent would then say.. ' yes if this guy is ok.. and we have met him'' you can go with him to this formal occasion and others will be there also and they should know their daughter and also sometimes trust her.. if she wants to not be the only girl at some formal event alone and a wallflower with no guy to talk to... so the parents should allow this..xx That is not dating that is just a one time event...xx
';Note: You don't talk to her about dating and you know she doesn't have a boyfriend.


You are the typical ';No dating until you are 18'; parent.';








You are fooling yourself if you think this is a good parenting strategy....and you are fooling yourself if you believe that you ';know'; she doesn't have boyfriend.





Forcing kids to hide what is normal behaviour only leads to uniformed and bad choices.





Prepare to become grandparents...real soon.
She's 16. If you don't let James take her to the formal then she will probably cop a lot of flack from her mates about how strict her parents are. Speak to his mother. That way you can tell her the conditions of them going together and she can express this to her son also so you are all on the same level. I'm sorry. It would be nice to think we can all wrap our kids in cotton wool forever.
Well have you had THE TALK. I think now is a good time for a reminder lesson. If the talk goes all well. You trust your daughter and know she will make the right choices then no need to worry too much.





Most of the time at those dances they just hang out with their girl friend and leave the boys on their own. It's just nice to have a date when you enter after that most girls run off to hang with their friends.
i dont see the problem. dances are very social events and can be ratehr important for a teenage girl to get out with her friends and have a good time. a date is kind of implied for these things. many go without but seriously i dont think htere is a problem.


now if she wants to go out on a one on one date to a movie or something you would have to reasses the situation.
It's not really dating, it's just an escort type thing.





I'd say, let her go and have fun but lay out strict rules about curfew and conduct.





If you feel this is like a real date, and you don't want her to be dating, then say no.
id say yes! shes in highschool, im guessing, or middle school and formals are lots of fun. if she cant date, the parents should at least let her have a night out with a guy.
It is unrealistic and abnormal when young adults 16+ commenly date to expect one to wait until 18. They will just go behind your back and be secretive and do so any way.
No teenage girl goes to a formal without a male escort, its just for fun, i dought anything would come of it.
Id say yes as long as youre home on time and if not do not expect to go to any more formals until youre 18.
I would say yes. You can drop off and pick up at the formal. Sounds like it is more of a friend thing rather then a date.
How old is she. The formal is Chaperoned? Is it a one on one? Is it a group of friends who will be driving?
I would say yes with conditions in place. We all have to remember we were that age once and it is her formal.
I would say go ask your mother.
depends on how old she is
i would say that it was ok. it's only a dance, and they will be friend, what harm could happen